Therapist for Men with Anger Issues Deerfield Beach

Anger in men occupies a complicated position. It is one of the few emotions men are culturally permitted to express, which means it becomes the default channel for everything else: sadness comes out as anger, fear comes out as anger, shame comes out as anger, helplessness comes out as anger. A man who appears to have an anger problem often has a feeling problem that he does not yet have the tools or the safety to address. The anger is not the core issue. It is the only outlet his emotional system has learned to use. Dr. David Steinbok works with men in the Deerfield Beach, Florida area who are dealing with chronic anger, explosive temper, rage, or angry outbursts that are damaging their relationships, their careers, or their sense of who they are.

Why Anger Becomes the Dominant Emotion for Men

From an early age, most boys learn that certain emotions are acceptable and others are not. Anger passes the test. Sadness, fear, vulnerability, and need do not. A boy who cries is told to toughen up. A boy who expresses fear is called weak. A boy who needs reassurance is told to handle it himself. The emotions do not disappear because they are discouraged. They go underground, and anger becomes the cover under which they operate. By adulthood, the system is so well established that the man himself does not know he is sad when he is angry, or afraid when he is angry, or hurting when he is angry. He experiences anger, and anger alone, because that is the only emotional channel that was left open.

Dr. David Steinbok's psychodynamic approach works beneath the anger to access the emotions it is masking. From his office in Boca Raton, Florida, he serves men from the Deerfield Beach area whose anger has become a problem they can no longer ignore. His method does not rely on anger management techniques, which focus on controlling the outward expression without addressing the internal source. Psychodynamic therapy for men with anger issues asks a different question: what is the anger protecting against? When that question begins to have answers, the anger often begins to shift because it is no longer doing its job alone. The emotions underneath it are becoming accessible, and the pressure that was producing the rage starts to dissipate.

This is not a quick process. Men who have spent decades routing every emotional experience through anger have deeply established patterns that do not dissolve in a handful of sessions. The therapeutic relationship has to develop enough trust for the man to begin experiencing the vulnerable emotions that the anger has been covering. That trust builds gradually, and it cannot be rushed without reinforcing the defenses it is trying to soften. For men who have tried anger management programs and found that the anger returned once the program ended, psychodynamic therapy offers a fundamentally different approach because it addresses the cause rather than managing the symptom.

Reaching Dr. David Steinbok from Deerfield Beach Florida

If anger is damaging your relationships, causing problems at work, or leaving you feeling out of control, Dr. David Steinbok provides psychotherapy in a private, confidential office in Boca Raton, Florida, approximately ten minutes from Deerfield Beach. His practice is private-pay with monthly documentation for out-of-network insurance reimbursement. There is no receptionist in the waiting area. Call (561) 362-9952 to schedule.