The experience of people always leaving can feel like evidence that the person is fundamentally unlovable or defective. That conclusion is understandable but almost always inaccurate. The pattern of being left usually has less to do with the person's lovability and more to do with the relational dynamics they unconsciously create. A person who expects abandonment may behave in ways that provoke it: testing a partner's loyalty until the partner breaks, withdrawing preemptively so the partner has no choice but to pursue or give up, or choosing people who are constitutionally incapable of staying. The person is not being left because they are unworthy. They are being left because the relational system they are operating within produces that outcome reliably.
For adults near Deerfield Beach, Florida who feel that people always leave, Dr. David Steinbok's psychodynamic approach provides a way to examine the system rather than reinforcing the conclusion that the person is the problem. His practice in Boca Raton offers a stable therapeutic relationship, one that does not end because the patient tests it, which can become the first evidence that the pattern is not inevitable.
