One of the most common emotions hidden beneath chronic anger is grief. A man who lost a parent, went through a divorce, experienced a career failure, or suffered any significant loss may find that grief converts into anger because anger feels more manageable. Grief requires surrender. It requires sitting with pain without being able to fix it. Anger, by contrast, feels active and powerful. It gives the illusion of control. A person who is raging about a billing error may be carrying unprocessed grief from a loss that happened years ago. The connection is invisible to the person, but it is operating constantly.
Dr. David Steinbok works with patients from the Boynton Beach, Florida area who are experiencing anger that may be rooted in grief or accumulated hurt. His psychodynamic approach creates a space where the anger can be respected as a signal rather than condemned as a problem, and where the emotion underneath can gradually be accessed, felt, and processed.
