At the center of most self-sabotaging relationship patterns is a core belief about the self: I am not worthy of love, I do not deserve happiness, people who get close to me will eventually discover something that makes them leave. These beliefs are not opinions the person holds consciously. They are assumptions embedded so deeply in the person's operating system that they shape perception and behavior without ever being articulated. A person who believes at a fundamental level that they are undeserving of a good relationship will unconsciously create conditions that prove the belief correct.
Dr. David Steinbok's psychodynamic approach works to surface these core beliefs and examine their origins. For adults in Boca Raton, Florida, a self sabotage in relationships therapist provides the therapeutic space needed to identify beliefs that have been running the patient's relational life from the background and to begin the process of questioning whether those beliefs are accurate given the patient's current reality.
