A person with an anxious attachment style tends to experience relationships through a lens of potential loss. Small fluctuations in a partner's availability can trigger disproportionate distress. The anxiously attached person may seek constant reassurance, become preoccupied with whether the relationship is secure, or react with intense emotion to situations that others would experience as minor. These responses are exhausting for both the person experiencing them and the partner on the receiving end, but they are not voluntary. They are the output of an attachment system that was calibrated in childhood to detect and respond to relational threat.
Dr. David Steinbok works with adults from the Delray Beach, Florida area who recognize anxious attachment in their own relational behavior. As an insecure attachment therapist, his focus is on understanding the early experiences that set the pattern in motion rather than simply managing the symptoms it produces. Psychodynamic therapy provides a stable, consistent relationship in which the anxious attachment response can be observed and explored in real time.
